Between us next door. We were closer in the pandemic, but the controversy has been flourishing since the spring

Małgorzata Oberlan

Controversy subsided during the pandemic. The 2022 text means that neighborhood disputes will flourish again. As all public life melted, so did neighborly relations. What are we arguing about now? The list is really long: children, dogs, cats, cigarettes on the balcony, garbage, sizes, parking, sounds …

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During the two years of the pandemic, many neighbors approached. Well, some people have actually met. – Working “remotely” for several months meant that my wife and I slowed down and finally had the opportunity to meet our neighbors. I will never forget the help they both gave us as we passed Jovid – Says Agata, a teacher living in Torun residential area.

Of course, during the pandemic, some neighborhood disputes also had an impact. The reason, for example, was noise (“I work at home, the neighbor above also beats, beats”) and repairs. However, housing authorities and cooperatives say this is not enough. – There was silence. People focused on their safety and health in the first place, says Halina Kowalska, a spokeswoman for the Rubinkowo housing cooperative, one of the largest in Torun.

In addition – let’s face it – many agencies impose pandemic restrictions, limiting physical contact with tenants. So no one went and complained about the “bad neighbor”. But now you can!

The students returned to the living quarters, accompanied by music and entertainment. Noise: Flame number 1

Nothing annoys a neighbor who values ​​silence more than loud music behind a wall or ceiling.

– I also understand that it is a weekend evening. But destroy these noises on Monday or Tuesday night ?! – Mr. Roman, a resident of Torun residential area, is nervous. – I’m not an old bastard. I am 45 years old and my wife is young. We have children. We work, we have to get up in the morning, we are both tired after work.

Who beats Mr. Roman? A little young, works not only next door, but also professionally. He just loves loud music. He gets in the car in the morning and beats! It starts. He comes home from work in a car and hits! Music is playing at home. Well, Mr. Roman also did a “bux”. -I sent a letter of complaint to the administrator. I’m waiting for a reaction. Another such action in the evening and I call the police – threatening a resident of Torun.

Noise in multi-family homes and densely built buildings is the number one point of contention. The management of the Copernicus Housing Construction Cooperative in Toru is well aware of the problem. – Many apartments in our warehouse are often rented to students. During the pandemic, young people left the city for distance education. This ended their complaints about listening to loud music or celebrating. But students continue to come back … – says President Marek Zółtowski.

Animals, such as dogs, cats and pigeons, have salt in their eyes. “The owner of the dog that was defecating in the cage wanted to clean up”

In the aforementioned Copernicus, the controversy over the feeding of pigeons has been, and probably will be, one of the most common causes of controversy. The same goes for thousands of residential areas in Poland. Some tenants throw crumbs on the balcony, while others complain about dirty window sills in the administration. This is a permanent scenario. However, there are alternative versions.

– There are tenants who pour soup or other leftovers from lunch “for the birds” on the lawn. With good intentions and with confidence that the pigeons will enjoy it. There is no need to explain what such lawns later turned into and how other residents reacted. A separate problem is the organized groups of grain and poultry farmers. Their activities have also been a turning point in our country, says President Zółtovski.

Birds, on the other hand, are just some of the animal problems that can be disputed with neighbors. Those about dogs are just as popular. For example, in a rented house in the center of Toru …

– I really understand that this dog is sick. I feel sorry for the neighbor who took him from the third floor to carry him in his arms. But, for God’s sake, if you do something “greasy” in front of my door on the first floor, then … Well, my blood is already flooded. – Bojena, a tenant downstairs, complains. And recently, when he was full, he hung a suitable poster inside the house. “The owner of the dog, who was defecating on the cage, asked to be cleaned,” the statement said. It helped for a few days. On Saturday, he looked at the carpet on the door again.

What about cats? These incredibly calm animals can heat up their neighbors. Humming is less common at home. More often – about the so-called ecological nutrition in basements or yards. Some people accept this and are sometimes even supported by a packet of dry food. Others complain not only to the administration, but also to the sanitary department. “Because there is no worse plague,” say the cat’s enemies in the basement.

Garbage and large sizes. Dispute number 3. “Who’s throwing it at us ?!”

Ms. Monica, who is usually quiet and friendly with her neighbors, an office worker from Torun, went crazy just before Easter. And in a public place, on the street! – I do not deny that it is so. I live on the first floor, and before the window, “unknown criminals” repeatedly showed me the so-called large dimensions. Believing that the MPO will transport them from here in a few days. So I was greeted by old chairs and an old toilet bowl after work. Before Christmas, I noticed a neighbor who put old kitchen furniture under the window of a neighboring house. Explaining only until April 30, then the MPO will come, the woman said.

There were not many bitter words in the street. Finally, Monica evaporated and pushed the neighboring board a few feet away. However, such cases are very common. It’s like throwing “dimensions” under the cover of night.

-Who is doing this? Cooperatives, such as ours, often set up large waste collection areas next to garbage cans. They are waiting for the MPO’s deportation to Torun twice a month. Even tenants of buildings adjacent to cooperatives, located on the other side of the city, where there are no such places, are aware of this. And they carry or bring back their dimensions. Sometimes for security at dusk. And investigations, complaints begin. That’s understandable, says Marek Żółtowski, president of SM Copernicus.

Behind the city gates, the problems are a bit different. “I sent his chickens to my dog ​​because they became tulips again”

Outside the city, we are looking for peace and quiet, here too … out loud. For example, in the case of Mrs. Anna, built in a certain settlement near Toru, the last Sunday was the busiest.

– PAbout Sunday morning, we are all cut by a neighbor who is mowing the lawn at work all week. The last thing we imagined that day was the noise of a gasoline lawn mower – a woman complains. He does not hide the fact that an argument with his neighbor has flared up, because it is useless to pay attention. It expresses deadly instincts. He knows very well that one person can reap the harvest on weekdays when others are not at home. -Some days of the week are off work. We know he is at home because we heard him arguing with his wife – he adds.

In another city outside the net, animals are fueling conflict. Residents have a different approach to them, as they are mixed with locals and “immigrants” from the city. For the first few, for example, it is common to let go of a dog. For others, it is a great sin.

-Dogs are a small piece of cake. I have neighbors whose neglected chickens regularly harm me, or rather destroy flower beds with tulips. I recently took these birds down with my dog, and it helped for a while – Martha, a teacher of animal rights, doesn’t hide the method she uses.

Who should resolve these disputes? “The police are the last resort. Then more neighbors will intervene.”

Halina Kowalska, spokeswoman for SM Rubinkowo, believes in the power of negotiation and mediation. He has been working in the cooperative for many years and has learned that this is the best way. Of course, it takes effort. First, the mediating official must listen carefully to both sides of the conflict. Second, force the conflicting parties to meet and talk. Then – prepare a compromise. “These are traditional, proven methods,” the spokesman said. – But sometimes there was a need for support, for example, from a psychologist.

Sometimes, even the administration and management of the cooperative do not produce the expected results. – This happened in a sharp conflict with us that lasted for months. The young couple enjoyed listening to music in advance. The speakers were placed on the ground. A neighboring retiree downstairs suffered. I will not count how many people are involved in resolving this dispute – Marek Zółtowski, President of SM Copernicus, remembers.

The pensioner regularly called the police, but this fact was not so successful. – In similar situations, the form may be helpless without the testimony of other neighbors as witnesses, because there is a word against the word – does not hide the president. And he concludes that the best thing is for the police to be the last resort. Then a wider group of tenants intervenes and the conflict may escalate.


Is this the end of this spring story? By no means! What about cigarettes on the balcony? And “kids mean”? And the fight for parking spaces? And the controversy over the decoration of the stairs? Spring is coming, the pandemic has stopped, so the neighbors are just starting. Interestingly, even home and property managers say that … they missed a bit. The return of small quarrels is a sign that life in the neighborhood has returned to normal.

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